“Love these days is nothing more than Chasing Shadows.” Why I say so?
Love – what a big word! Everyone talks about it like it’s the most important thing in life. But hold on! What kind of love are we really talking about? Today’s love seems more like a game, and it often leaves us feeling empty.
In today’s world, love feels like something you can buy. You swipe right, swipe left, and hope to find “the one.” You see someone say, “Ah! I found one.” You talk with someone for 4 days, you share your feelings with some sweet talks, start feeling friendly and say “Yes! he/she is the one.” But is that really love? We often connect with pictures and profiles instead of real people. It’s like shopping online – quick, easy, and often disappointing. Where’s the magic in that?
Real love, the kind we hear about from wise people, takes time and effort. It’s not just about having fun; it’s about understanding each other deeply. But most of us want the quick fix, the instant connection, and we miss the chance to truly know someone.
Now! The sad part? This modern love doesn’t help us grow. It’s all about comfort and fun. But real love is a journey. It challenges you, pushes you to be better, and sometimes it hurts. But that’s how we learn! Instead, we find ourselves in relationships where everything is easy, and we avoid the hard stuff.
Love should set you free, but too often, it feels like a cage. People say, “I love you,” but really, they mean, “I need you.” This is not love; it’s dependence. True love helps you fly, not weigh you down.
Look around. Many people are stuck in relationships that don’t bring them joy. They cling to each other, expecting the other person to fill their emptiness. But love is not about possession; it’s about freedom. The real lover says, “I love you, and I also want you to be free.” That’s the kind of love we should look for!
Sill there? Alright!
So, what do we get from this modern love?
- Disappointment: Many end up feeling unfulfilled, as if they are always searching for something deeper.
- Heartbreak: Quick flings often lead to painful breakups, leaving emotional scars.
- Loneliness: Despite being surrounded by people, individuals can feel isolated, longing for genuine connection.
- Frequent Fights: Insecure attachments often lead to misunderstandings and arguments, creating a cycle of conflict.
- Jealousy and Possessiveness: Instead of love, many feel threatened by their partner’s friendships, leading to toxic behavior.
- Emotional Exhaustion: The constant ups and downs drain our energy and make us feel stressed rather than happy.
- Loss of Identity: People can lose themselves in relationships, becoming too dependent on their partners for happiness.
- Shallow Connections: Many relationships lack depth, leading to feelings of emptiness and a lack of true intimacy.
Don’t get me wrong – love is wonderful! But the kind we often see today? It’s not the real deal. It’s time to look at what love is not.
Love is not control. It’s not about keeping someone close just because you feel lonely. Real love brings joy and freedom. It allows both people to grow, even if that means growing apart sometimes.
By seeking deeper, more authentic connections, we can experience:
- Fulfillment: True love nourishes the soul and brings happiness.
- Growth: Healthy relationships challenge us to become better versions of ourselves.
- Connection: Finding someone who understands and supports you creates lasting bonds.
- Freedom: Real love allows both partners to thrive individually while enjoying the relationship.
Take a step back. Ask yourself: Is this so called feeling of love that I’m getting is making me happy or just filling a void?
Maybe the real love we seek is not out there but within us. Let’s find that love first!!